S1 E40 ADHD Women: Why You Stop Showing Up For Yourself

If you’re always there for everyone else but can’t seem to do the same for yourself, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Jess and Jeannine explore why so many women with ADHD can be dependable for others yet unreliable to themselves. It isn’t because you don’t care or aren’t capable. Your brain simply doesn’t register your own needs the way it registers other people’s.

They get into what drives this pattern, how urgency gets created, why external expectations take priority, and what happens when your own needs stay invisible.

00:02 – Showing Up for Everyone Else (But Not Yourself)
00:56 – Why ADHD Brains Prioritize Other People
01:39 – When Your Needs Don’t Feel Urgent
01:51 – Why It Feels Like Something Is Wrong With You
03:08 – Becoming the “Dependable One”
07:00 – Burnout, Shutdown, and Ignoring Yourself
13:46 – Why You Still Can’t Show Up for Yourself