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Injustice on Repeat: ADHD Women and Justice Sensitivity
Have you ever watched something unfair happen and felt it like it happened to you?
This episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine talk about justice sensitivity in ADHD women. Why unfairness doesn’t just register, it sticks. ADHD brains don’t just notice injustice; they absorb it, replay it, and struggle to understand how other people seem able to move on while it’s still looping.
From a grocery store line incident to the emotional toll of constant exposure to world events, they unpack the nervous system side of justice sensitivity: chest tightening, jaw clenching, hyperfocus, rumination, and the spiral that follows. They also talk about the self-doubt that creeps in: Why do I care this much? Why can’t I let this go?
This isn’t about being dramatic or righteous. It’s about how ADHD wiring processes fairness, moral clarity, and unresolved experiences. Jess and Jeannine explore the difference between noticing injustice and being consumed by it and why pacing your exposure isn’t the same as stopping caring.
If you:• replay unfair moments long after they’re over• feel pulled to speak up when others don’t• struggle to tune out news, conflict, or moral issues• wonder why injustice feels personal
This episode is for you.
Justice sensitivity is one reason many ADHD women feel angry on the inside their brains are wired to notice, connect, and care. The goal isn’t to shut that off. It’s learning how to care without being wrecked by it.
You’re not the only one who’s angry on the inside
00:00 – When Unfairness Hits the BodyJess and Jeannine open with the physical experience of injustice chest tightening, jaw locking, hyperfocus, and why ADHD women don’t just notice unfairness… we feel it.
01:18 – Why Everything Feels Louder Right NowEmotional saturation, nervous system overload, and why injustice sensitivity can feel amplified in certain seasons of life.
02:04 – ADHD Women, Rumination, and Self-DoubtWhy we replay unfair moments, question ourselves, and wonder why others move on so easily while we’re still carrying it.
03:34 – What Justice Sensitivity Actually IsNaming the pattern: how ADHD brains process unfairness deeply, personally, and persistently plus reassurance that this isn’t “just you.”
05:56 – The Grocery Store Line StoryA real-life moment of everyday injustice that shows how justice sensitivity works in the moment and why speaking up can feel unavoidable.
08:14 – The Rumination Spiral After the MomentThe “why didn’t I say something?” loop, moral processing, and how ADHD brains build entire narratives after small injustices.
09:25 – Media, Overload, and Nervous System LimitsWhy constant exposure to world events can overwhelm ADHD nervous systems and make injustice feel inescapable.
12:29 – Moral Clarity and the “Common Knowledge” GapWhy fairness can feel obvious to us but invisible to others and how that gap fuels frustration.
14:46 – The Mirror MomentA turning point: recognizing how we sometimes end up doing the same thing we were upset about and what that says about compassion and limits.
15:08 – Pacing, Boundaries, and Choosing BattlesLiving with justice sensitivity without trying to carry the whole world. This isn’t about stopping caring it’s about not turning it inward.
17:30 – “I Don’t Want to Be Wrecked by It”Emotional regulation without detachment. Caring deeply without burning out.
18:45 – Closing: Caring Without Carrying EverythingJustice sensitivity, anger, values, and the reminder that you’re not the only one who feels this way.

Why do so many ADHD women find themselves picking fights, creating conflict, or feeling pulled toward anger without understanding why?
In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine unpack the often-misunderstood link between ADHD restlessness and anger and why anger can temporarily feel like relief, clarity, or even motivation.
They explore how chronic under-stimulation in the ADHD brain can turn restlessness into irritation, conflict, or rage, and why anger creates a powerful surge of activation through dopamine and adrenaline. For many late-diagnosed women, that surge can feel grounding, productive, and regulating even though it often comes with real emotional and relational costs.
This conversation covers:
Why ADHD restlessness is physical, emotional, and hard to tolerate
How anger becomes a fast (but risky) form of activation
Why conflict, doom scrolling, and rage can suddenly make things easier to do
The shame cycle many ADHD women experience after anger passes
How awareness helps interrupt the pattern without self-blame
This episode isn’t about excusing harmful behavior or turning anger into a strategy. It’s about understanding what’s happening in the ADHD nervous system, naming the pattern honestly, and finding safer ways to meet the brain’s need for stimulation without blowing up relationships.
If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I feel better after I snap?” or “Why does calm feel harder than chaos?” — this episode is for you.
Take what resonates. Leave the rest. And remember: you’re not the only one angry on the inside.

The idea that ADHD women have unlimited capacity doesn’t usually feel like a goal  it feels like an assumption. One that quietly shapes how long we push, how much we tolerate, and how often we abandon ourselves before we stop.
In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine unpack the difference between “good enough” and “fuck it” two states that often get confused but come from very different places. One is a conscious choice rooted in self-trust, pacing, and autonomy. The other happens after capacity has already been exceeded and the nervous system shuts everything down.
They talk honestly about over functioning as a survival strategy, why “good enough” feels unsafe or wrong for so many ADHD women, and how perfectionism disguises itself as responsibility, morality, and work ethic. The conversation explores burnout, nervous system overload, people-pleasing, rejection sensitivity, and the belief that stress equals importance.
Through real-life examples  including unfinished work, invisible labor, and the pressure to always go above and beyond this episode names a hard truth: pushing until you collapse isn’t strength, and stopping before you break isn’t failure.
If you’ve ever walked away from something wondering whether you made a healthy choice or whether you just hit the point of “fuck it” this episode is for you.
Explicit language. Honest conversation. No fixes, no hacks just clarity.
 
🎧 Podcast Chapter List
00:00 – Good Enough vs. Fuck ItWhy these two states look similar from the outside but feel completely different internally and how confusing them leads to exhaustion, shutdown, and self-doubt.
02:48 – Over functioning as SurvivalWhy ADHD women don’t stop at “enough” we stop at empty and how perfectionism, people-pleasing, and control become survival strategies.
04:11 – What “Good Enough” Actually MeansGood enough as a conscious choice, not giving up. Why stopping early feels unsafe and wrong, even when it’s the healthier option.
07:40 – When “Fuck It” Is a ShutdownFuck it isn’t a boundary it’s a nervous system collapse. The brief relief, the chaos afterward, and why this moment isn’t empowerment.
09:15 – Capacity, Pacing, and BurnoutHow pushing past limits leads to recovery mode, unfinished work, and physical exhaustion and why ADHD women consistently overdraw their energy.
13:58 – The Myth of Unlimited CapacityLetting go of the woman we thought we were. Why unlimited focus never existed  and how this belief keeps ADHD women overextending.
20:36 – Choosing Good Enough Before CollapseWhy recognizing good enough before shutdown takes awareness and practice and how learning to stop early becomes a real boundary.

Money isn’t just stressful for ADHD women. It often brings up anger, shame, and a deep sense of self-blame that’s hard to explain. In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine explore why money feels so hard for ADHD women and why these struggles are neurological, not moral.
This conversation unpacks how ADHD impacts the nervous system around money, including time blindness, urgency, impulsivity, avoidance, and the emotional crash that follows trying to “do the right thing” and still feeling behind. From subscriptions you meant to cancel to returns that never quite make it back, they name the lived experience behind financial frustration — without advice, pressure, or judgment.
This is not a budgeting episode or a list of fixes. It’s a grounded, validating conversation about money, anger, and ADHD and why feeling overwhelmed or resentful around finances does not mean you’re irresponsible or broken.
If money has ever left you feeling angry, ashamed, or quietly overwhelmed on the inside, this episode is for you.
00:00 – Money, Anger & ADHD WomenWhy money triggers anger, frustration, and shutdown for ADHD women and why logic isn’t the problem.
03:18 – ADHD, Money & the Nervous SystemHow time blindness, impulsivity, and overwhelm shape money struggles not morality or discipline.
07:46 – Urgency, Shame & the ADHD Money SpiralWhen everything feels on fire, avoidance kicks in, and self-blame takes over.
11:42 – Discipline, Dopamine & Internalized MessagesWhy “just be more disciplined” backfires for ADHD women and fuels anger and burnout.
15:06 – Returns, Subscriptions & Trying to Do BetterThe emotional toll of returns, forgotten subscriptions, and effort that still doesn’t pay off.
19:54 – Letting Go of Money ShameWhy there’s no single right system and what relief looks like for ADHD women.
 

New Year’s Eve is supposed to be magical.New Year’s Day is supposed to feel like a fresh start.
But for many ADHD women especially those diagnosed later in life it often feels disappointing, exhausting, or quietly heavy instead.
In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine talk about why New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day can be so anticlimactic for ADHD brains. From the pressure to have the “best night ever” to the expectation that everything should feel different just because the calendar changed, New Year’s often becomes another place where shame, comparison, and unrealistic expectations creep in.
They explore the fantasy vs. reality of New Year’s Eve, the dopamine swings that make plans feel exciting one minute and unbearable the next, and why New Year’s Day can hit especially hard after the emotional and physical marathon of December. You’ll hear why exhaustion, disappointment, and self-blame aren’t personal failures they’re predictable responses when an ADHD brain is pushed to perform on a timeline that doesn’t fit.
The conversation also touches on late diagnosis, novelty, and the slow shift that happens when you stop working against your brain and start understanding it. From learning song lyrics to buying a Rubik’s Cube you never open, this episode uses humor and lived experience to unpack why “fresh start” culture doesn’t land the same way for ADHD women.
This isn’t about fixing yourself, setting better goals, or forcing a new version of you in January. It’s about permission to do New Year’s your way, to let go of the tropes that don’t work, and to remember that nothing is wrong with you because your brain didn’t magically change overnight.
If New Year’s has always felt harder than it’s supposed to you’re not alone.
🎙️ Angry on the Inside is hosted by two Certified ADHD Coaches sharing lived experience, insight, and honest conversation. This podcast is not therapy or coaching take what resonates and leave the rest.
00:00 – New Year’s Eve Expectations vs Reality (ADHD Women)Why New Year’s Eve creates pressure, comparison, and stress for ADHD women and how expectations quietly build weeks before the night even arrives.
02:20 – ADHD Energy Swings on New Year’s EveFrom party mode to total shutdown, Jess and Jeannine unpack ADHD energy swings on New Year’s Eve and why every version of showing up is valid.
05:40 – Why New Year’s Day Feels Anticlimactic with ADHDThe post-midnight crash: exhaustion, disappointment, and why New Year’s Day rarely feels like a fresh start for ADHD brains.
08:45 – “The Whole Damn Time”: ADHD Expectations & ShameThat realization moment when ADHD women see how pressure, self-blame, and unrealistic expectations have been running in the background all along.
09:40 – ADHD, New Year Goals, and the Novelty TrapWhy New Year goals feel exciting at first, how novelty fades for ADHD brains, and what small stories reveal about motivation and follow-through.
12:00 – New Year, Same Brain: ADHD Women Doing It Their WayLate diagnosis, self-compassion, and permission for ADHD women to stop forcing New Year’s traditions that don’t fit without shame.

The holidays come with expectations and for ADHD women, those expectations often collide hard with reality.
In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine talk honestly about why December feels so overwhelming for ADHD brains. From invisible “shoulds” and perfectionism to emotional overload and burnout, the holiday season becomes a pressure cooker for women who are already doing too much and trying to hold everything together.
They explore how perfectionism often shows up as a learned coping strategy, why kids and partners feel stress even when we think we’re hiding it, and how hypervigilance and all-or-nothing thinking can turn one imperfect moment into a “ruined” day. You’ll also hear why the holidays we remember most aren’t the perfect ones they’re the messy, human stories where things went wrong and everyone survived anyway.
This isn’t a checklist or a “just relax” conversation. It’s a grounded, validating discussion about setting realistic expectations, naming your limits, challenging the constant “shoulds,” and redefining what a good enough holiday actually looks like for an ADHD brain.
If the holiday season leaves you feeling overwhelmed, short-tempered, or quietly angry on the inside you’re not alone.
🎙️ Angry on the Inside is hosted by Jess and Jeannine, certified ADHD life coaches, sharing honest conversations for ADHD women navigating life, relationships, and late diagnosis.
00:00 – The Holiday Script in Your HeadWhy ADHD women enter December with a mental script and why reality never seems to follow it.
02:05 – Perfectionism, “Shoulds,” and Holiday PressureHow invisible expectations, perfectionism, and lifelong “shoulds” collide during the holidays for ADHD women.
04:55 – Kids, Partners, and Emotional Wi-FiWhy the stress we think we’re hiding is felt by everyone around us especially kids.
07:45 – Hypervigilance and All-or-Nothing Holiday ThinkingHow trying to control holiday chaos drains ADHD women and turns one imperfect moment into “the whole day is ruined.”
11:45 – Capacity vs. Expectations (What Actually Breaks Us)The mismatch between real capacity and holiday plans and why ADHD women often don’t realize the limit until after the crash.
15:25 – Good Enough Holidays & Letting Go of “Should”ADHD-friendly strategies for setting realistic expectations, communicating limits, and redefining what “good enough” really means.
19:30 – The Holidays We Remember Aren’t the Perfect OnesWhy the most meaningful holiday memories come from messy, human moments not perfectly executed plans.

The holidays hit different when you’re an ADHD woman trying to keep yourself regulated while your kids bounce between overstimulation, sugar crashes, and relative-induced chaos.In this episode, Jess and Jeannine break down real-world co-regulation strategies that actually work for ADHD moms and sensory-sensitive kids without shame, perfection pressure, or Pinterest-mom energy.
We talk about:🎄 Why co-regulation isn’t codependence (and how to tell the difference)🧠 Using curiosity instead of control when your kid melts down🙅‍♀️ Consent hellos, body autonomy, and navigating pushy relatives🔊 Sensory overload survival: sunglasses, Loops, headphones & coping candy👜 The ADHD “Santa Survival Kit” for car rides, stores, and family gatherings💬 Emotional honesty & why your kids can always read your stress💗 How to stay connected when everyone’s overstimulated (including you)
This episode is for every ADHD mom who’s trying to make the holidays feel safe, manageable, and actually enjoyable without sacrificing your sanity or your kids’ nervous systems.
If you’ve ever whispered “I need a timeout too,” this one’s your episode.
00:00 – Cold Open: Holiday Chaos Meets ADHD BrainsMariah Carey, meltdowns, pine-scented overstimulation, and why December hits different for ADHD women.
01:02 – Co-Regulation vs. Codependence (And Why It Matters Today)Understanding emotional regulation during the holidays — without absorbing everyone else’s stress.
03:10 – Curiosity Over Control: The ADHD-Friendly Parenting ResetDitching the pre-party “be on your best behavior” script and using curiosity to defuse meltdowns.
07:14 – Consent, Autonomy, and Holiday Boundaries for KidsHow to model body autonomy, support kids’ comfort, and handle pushy relatives without guilt.
12:32 – Sensory Overload: Prevent, Support, ProtectHoliday environments are sensory traps. Tools that work: sunglasses, scents, Loop earplugs, headphones, coping candy, and more.
17:30 – The Santa Survival Kit & Reset RitualsHow to create a car-ready regulation kit to prevent overstimulation and why modeling resets builds trust.
22:07 – Survival Mode, Emotional Honesty & Staying ConnectedHow kids read your stress, why transparency matters, and how to co-regulate through holiday overwhelm.

December hits ADHD women differently and no one talks about it. One minute you’re thriving on holiday dopamine and twinkle lights, and the next you’re in the bathroom with a six-pack of Reese’s trees wondering why your nervous system has abandoned you for the holidays.
In this episode, Jess and Jeannine break down the real ADHD holiday arc: overstimulation, disappearing routines, perfectionism pressure, emotional labor, family triggers, and the “why am I suddenly seven years old?” regression that shows up every year.
We also talk about DESR, unapologetically, hitting emotional capacity, and how to build a December that actually fits your brain without shame, without perfection, and without the meltdown hangover.
If you’ve ever cried in the Target parking lot during the holidays, you’re in the right place.
00:00 – The ADHD Holiday High
The early-December dopamine surge, over-decorating, organizing, and the festive identity ADHD women know too well.
00:47 – The Holiday Crash No One Talks About
Two days before Christmas: bathroom Reese’s trees, sugar crashes, and the emotional flip that hits out of nowhere.
01:27 – Who We Are: Late-Diagnosed, Overwhelmed, Still Here
Jess & Jeannine introduce the episode: emotional whiplash, Target-parking-lot tears, and the ADHD reality of holiday season.
02:43 – Why December Breaks ADHD Brains
Overstimulation, emotional overload, disappearing routines, and why December hits different for ADHD women.
05:19 – Family Triggers & Old Roles Rebooting
Why holiday gatherings send ADHD women straight back into childhood dynamics, old labels, and old wounds.
07:08 – Perfectionism, Emotional Labor & the Mental Load
The invisible work behind “perfect holidays,” unrealistic expectations, and why ADHD women hit emotional capacity fast.
09:29 – What Actually Helps ADHD Women in December
Regulation basics, lowering standards, cutting the list in half, redefining traditions, and building a holiday that fits your capacity.
20:13 – “That’s Not Normal”: ADHD Holiday Edition
Wrapping-paper crises, 2 a.m. cleaning, Clydesdale commercials, Reese’s trees in the bathroom — and why your holiday chaos is valid.
23:35 – Closing: Take What Fits, Leave the Rest
A grounding reminder: nothing about your December makes you weak, and you're not the only one feeling angry on the inside.