S1 E39 ADHD Women: Why Your Inner Voice Turns On You

Why does the voice in your head feel so real when it’s tearing you down?

In this episode, Jess & Jeannine are talking about negative self-talk and why, for women with ADHD, it can get so loud, so convincing, and so hard to separate from who we actually are.

From replaying conversations to assuming you’ve disappointed someone. Turning one mistake into “this is just who I am” this isn’t just overthinking. It’s a pattern that builds over time.

We get into:

• where that internal voice actually comes from
• why ADHD (and things like executive dysfunction and rejection sensitivity) can amplify it
• how rumination turns thoughts into something that feels like the truth

They also talk about the identity piece how “I forgot” slowly turns into “I’m someone who always forgets” and why that shift matters more than we realize.

And no, we’re not going to tell you to “just think positive.”

This is about understanding where that voice came from, why it feels so real, and how to start creating space between you and it without pretending it doesn’t exist.

If this this resonates for you, send it to the person who would recognize that voice immediately.

Chapters:
00:00 When Your Brain Turns on You 
01:14 Why Negative Self-Talk Gets So Loud with ADHD
03:09 How That Voice Gets Built Over Time
05:10 RSD, Rumination, and the Loop That Won’t Let Go
07:31 The Things We Say to Ourselves (That We’d Never Say Out Loud)
10:00 When Negative Self-Talk Becomes Your Identity
12:52 How to Separate Yourself from the Voice